As It Was in the Beginning

     Question Number 5: Did Esther really love Laurence? Father Paul? If so, did she stop loving them?

     It looked like Esther's homesickness would never finish. However, her love for Laurence, her dear playmate, put all the family memories away. And he loved her with the same intensity, even coming from a different greed. Only a real love can fill up a needing heart. That precious moments ended when Father Paul convinced Laurence to get away from her. That was the same Father who were once the good friend and role model for that Indian girl. He was her guide in the mission. For a "bloody" honor, he destroyed all her happiness. For that reason, her friendship with the Father would never bloom again. As a consequence of Father Paul impediments, she use the revenge and kill Laurence. Finally, even when Esther continued loving Laurence, she took away the most valuable thing from Father Paul, making him fall into his own hell.

The Onlies Are Not So Lonely

     Being an only child seems to be an attractive life. Even though the only child may feel lonely not having a brother or a sister, he enjoys many advantages. Not having siblings around you means that your parents are going to give you all the charming and things they can, as Forer says on her description of birth order. All that benefits are harder to see in the first or middle child, who are often in a competition for their parents' attention.  I can relate of this because of my position as a first child...

How Accurate is the Author's Description of my Birth Order

     After reading "How Your Birth Order Influences Your Life Adjustment" from Lucille K. Forer, I feel that finally someone else understands me. It explains mostly accurately how my birth order, in my case the older child, affects my lifestyle and the way I relate to the people. It also helped me to understand better why I try to act responsibly most of the time.

     In agreement with the text, I definitely have a parental position in relation to my siblings. As a result, if my parents are not there I have to correct my brother and sister when they are doing bad things. This situation often put me under pressure to do things in the right way, since I must be the role model for my siblings. Another point mentioned in the reading, which I agree with, is that my sister, the middle one, sometimes ask me for help. There is only one topic which I think doesn't match with my own family story: the capabilities. In my opinion, the oldest child doesn't necessarily have to be the most capable than the later children. For my personal experience I can tell that my sister, for example, is more capable than me in many ways. The reason for this is maybe because she is less anxious about being correct, so her self-confidence make her do things in which I'm maybe not as good as her. However, in general, this reading has a very accurate picture of my family hierarchy situation in most of the aspects mentioned.

Me, The Oldest Child! :/

 

   My name is Natasha -or you can call me Necessary Natasha- and I'm from Dominican Republic. I grew up in an educated family, with a though parents. Since I am the oldest child, I have had a lot of responsibilities in my life.

     I have been taking care of my sister Rosalia, the middle one, and Jonathan, my younger brother. Based on my own experience, I can tell that being the oldest child is not easy at all. Besides of taking care of my siblings, I had the responsibility of clean the house and cooking, whenever my parents were busy. In top of it, I was always obligated to maintain a right behavior and be good at school. Even when I do a lot to help my family, my parents, and sometimes my siblings, don't think much about me. It has been a lonely life; however, my sister, who is the middle one, is starting to share more things with me and be more nice and helpful with me as we are growing up.